5 Things We Always Tell Gay Friends Visiting Palm Springs for the First Time
Planning your first Palm Springs gaycation? Here are 5 things we always tell our gay friends visiting Palm Springs for the first time – insider vacation tips on weather, nightlife, resorts, and embracing your fabulous self.
We’ve lived in Palm Springs for five years now, and let us tell you – there’s simply nowhere else quite like it. If you’re a gay man looking to live your best vacation fantasy (and maybe even flirt with the idea of staying for good), Palm Springs is the sun-soaked, speedo-clad, cocktail-in-hand escape of your dreams.
Palm Springs isn’t just gay-friendly – it’s practically gay-designed. From the moment you land, the mountains flirt with you, the boys wink at you, and the warm desert breeze whispers, “Take off your shirt, sexy.”
Whether you're coming to party, relax, explore, connect, or disconnect, here are the 5 things we always tell our gay friends before their first visit.
If you have anything you’d like to contribute to this article, please email us and let us know (and let us know why)!
1. Yes, it’s hot here in the desert – but it’s not like how you imagine.
Here’s the truth: desert heat hits differently. If you’re coming from a humid place like NYC or DC, 80° there feels like 110°. But here, a dry 105° can actually feel... dare we say... refreshing. Or at least comfortable.
That said, don’t get cocky about it. The sun is strong, the booze is stronger, and the dehydration is real. Hydrate often (we love a reusable water bottle), layer on that SPF, and bring a fan you can snap open for dramatic effect (yaass, Queen).
Pro Tips:
Do your hiking, brunching, or grocery shopping early.
Head indoors mid-afternoon – think Palm Springs Art Museum exploration, or a stylish air-conditioned nap.
Take the Aerial Tramway to escape the heat – temps up there can be 20° cooler (and the views are magnificent)!
With more pools per capita than anywhere in the country, take a dip – day or night.
2. You’ll feel more seen here than anywhere else you’ve been – so embrace it.
Palm Springs is proudly over 40% LGBTQ+. That means wherever you go – whether it’s the farmer’s market, a drag brunch, or Trader Joe’s – you’ll feel like you belong here.
Don’t hold back. Hold hands. Rock the mesh tank. Flirt with strangers. Be the main character at brunch. Whether you’re 25 or 75 – a twink, a bear, or a daddy – you’re part of the tapestry here.
From our local government and police force to our local businesses and eateries – there’s something magical and deeply healing about being in a town where your queerness is celebrated.
3. Most of our resorts for men-only are clothing-optional – but that doesn’t mean what you think.
Yes, most of our resorts for men-only clothing-optional. But that can mean different things depending on where you stay.
Looking for a relaxed, classy vibe with a friendly crowd? Start with Santiago Resort – perfect for first-timers. Ready to crank up the steam? Casa Oliver brings the heat (and then some).
Etiquette 101:
Be yourself, but embrace the opportunity to be as free as you’d like.
Keep your phone to yourself (no photos!).
Respect everyone’s vibe – friendships and flings happen naturally.
And who knows? That stranger in the hot tub might just become your new bestie. It happens all the time here.
4. Check out the theme parties – but pace yourself!
Palm Springs nightlife comes to life when a good theme calls. At Tool Shed, underwear night is always a popular weekly attraction. Be sure to wear your sexiest jock strap and leather harness for this – or make a pit stop at Gear Leather & Fetish next door.
Pro tip: the “Palm Springs pour” is not for amateurs. One drink here is often a double (and it’s still 90° outside), so sip wisely, gurrrl.
After Dark Suggestions:
Start at Tool Shed or Dicks on Arenas
Dance it out at Chill Bar or Quadz in the Arenas district after, or…
If you're in the mood for more... Club 541 (Palm Springs’ new sex club) is across the street.
Take a Lyft or Uber. Nobody looks cute getting a DUI in a harness.
5. During in-season (September–May), make those dinner reservations in advance – and leave time for a disco nap.
Palm Springs is a seasonal lady – and when she’s in-season, everyone’s out. Tables book up fast, especially at hot spots like:
Bar Cecil (try booking 1–2 months out!)
Clandestino, Lola Rose, and Ponzu are also go-to faves.
Shows, concerts, and drag revues can start early (7 or 8 PM), but the bars don’t start hopping until 9 or 10. Our advice is to plan ahead for dinner, take a disco nap, then head out looking rested and radiant.
Why Gay Palm Springs Is Always a Good Idea
Year-round sunshine, breathtaking desert views, and one of the most welcoming LGBTQ+ communities in the world? Yes, please.
From chill pool days to wild theme nights, from world-class dining to once-in-a-lifetime friendships, Palm Springs invites you to strip off the expectations, dive into freedom, and just… be exactly who you are inside and out. You’ll come alive here.
If you could give one piece of advice to a gay friend visiting PS for the first time, what would it be? What surprised you most during your first visit to Palm Springs? Share your experiences!
If you’re curious to learn more about all the fun you can have here in Palm Springs and our beautiful Coachella Valley, check out some of our blog favorites, like Best Gay Nightlife in Palm Springs, Escape to Bliss: Best Gay Men's Spas and Spa Resorts in Palm Springs, and Santiago, Descanso & Twin Palms Resorts: A Three-Way Comparison.
Curious About Buying, Selling, or Relocating?
Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
In addition to being one half of The Palm Springs Guys – Glen Nadeau is one of Palm Springs’ top-producing Realtors, known for his no-pressure approach, deep market expertise, and genuine commitment to his clients.
A member of The Caldwell & Linger Group – ranked a Top Real Estate Team by Palm Springs Life Magazine – Glen is also backed by COMPASS, which remains the #1 ranked brokerage in the country. Glen takes great pride in knowing that his clients are in such good hands.
“Hospitality is what drives me because helping folks achieve their real estate goals is essentially helping them build a better life for themselves.”
Visit Modern Living Palm Springs, or reach out to me directly. Ask me anything – I promise to give you much more support than ChatGPT, Google or the news will.
Your Palm Springs Insider,
Glen Nadeau (pronounced “Ned-oh” as in “meadow”)
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How Palm Springs Became the Safest LGBTQ+ Place in America
Discover why LGBTQ+ Americans are flocking to Palm Springs – a vibrant oasis where safety, inclusivity, and community meet. Explore the city’s rich LGBTQ+ culture, supportive infrastructure, and investment opportunities from our local gay perspective.
When the world feels more like a bad sequel than a hopeful reboot, LGBTQ+ Americans are doing what they do best – securing their promising futures. Enter Palm Springs, California, a city so welcoming it will greet you with a Pride flag and a martini as soon as you arrive. This desert oasis has become our fulltime home – and it’s the place to be right now for those looking to combine safety, community, and endless sunshine.
Here’s why gay men and the broader LGBTQ+ community are packing their bags for Palm Springs faster than they can say, “Get me the F**K out of here!”
A Safe Haven in Tumultuous Times
It’s no secret that political turbulence has left many LGBTQ+ individuals questioning their safety. With threats like Project 2025 looming and human rights hanging in the balance, finding a sanctuary isn’t just a luxury – it’s a necessity.
Palm Springs shines as a beacon of hope now more than ever. Nearly 40% of the city’s population identifies as LGBTQ+, making it truly one of the most inclusive places in America. Here, you’re not just tolerated – you are embraced and celebrated.
A City That Says ‘No’ to Hate (and Yes to Drag!)
While many places in the U.S. are entangled in debates over LGBTQ+ rights, Palm Springs is busy doubling down on inclusivity. Case in point? The City of Palm Springs recently declared itself a sanctuary for drag performers – a bold move that screams in response to drag bans as, “Not here, not ever.”
Between local government and police force, our city's local leadership is unapologetically progressive, prioritizing policies that protect residents and foster a sense of belonging.
The Heart of LGBTQ+ History and Culture
Palm Springs is steeped in LGBTQ+ history that’s as rich as its present culture. From historical landmarks to art galleries and museums, the city celebrates its roots in ways that keep the spirit of resilience alive.
Even events like Palm Springs Pride festival and the legendary White Party take things up a notch, blending activism and celebration seamlessly. Living here is safe and downright joyful. And in case you’re wondering, yes, you can wear your short shorts at the grocery store.
Supportive Infrastructure Tailored to You
Safety is about acceptance and resources. Palm Springs delivers with a slew of LGBTQ+ organizations like The LGBTQ Center of the Desert, offering everything from mental health services to social engagement opportunities. Whether you’re seeking a sense of community or just someone to rave about the new season of Drag Race with, you’ll find it here.
Plus, local businesses go the extra mile to ensure inclusivity, from healthcare providers like DAP Health who understand your needs to boutique hotels that cater to your lifestyle.
Investing in Your Future: The Real Estate Advantage
Now, let’s talk dollars and cents – because safety and inclusivity aside, Palm Springs is a smart financial move too. Real estate in inclusive cities is in demand, and Palm Springs is no exception. Buying property here is both an investment in your peace of mind and in your future.
From mid-century modern masterpieces to cozy desert retreats, the city’s housing market offers something for every taste. And let’s be real – your Zoom meetings will hit differently working remotely from somewhere you love (and with a palm tree backdrop).
Make the Move, Gurrrlll
If you’re curious to learn more about our vibrant LGBTQ+ community here in Palm Springs, check out our other articles 10 Welcoming Neighborhoods: Why Palm Springs Should Be Your Next Home and Palm Springs LGBTQ+ Community: What You Need To Know.
Palm Springs is a place where you can be yourself unapologetically, surrounded by a community that lifts you up and celebrates your journey. Whether you’re looking for safety, connection, or the perfect spot for a pool party – Palm Springs has it all. Your best gay life awaits you here…
What other questions do you have?
Consider an experienced and knowledgeable local realtor (like me) to help you make sense of things.
If you’re ready to buy and/or sell yourself, I look forward to assisting you. I promise to give you a much more targeted answer than ChatGPT, Google or the news will.
Please feel free to give me a call, text, email me – or let’s schedule a Zoom meeting.
I’m looking forward to connecting with you!
Your Palm Springs Insider,
Glen Nadeau
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Best Gay Shopping in Palm Springs
From mid-century made modern home goods to gaycation fashion, Palm Springs is brimming with gay-owned and LGBTQIA+ businesses to patronize (along with some brand names that we all not-so-secretly love as well)…
From mid-century made modern home goods to gaycation fashion, Palm Springs is brimming with gay-owned and LGBTQIA+ businesses to patronize (along with some brand names that we all not-so-secretly love as well).
Mens short shorts are the unofficial gay dress code here in Palm Springs, so leave those straight-boy shorts at home and show us some thigh, handsome. You can start building your ST33LE Brand short shorts collection at Division Palm Springs until you've got every color of the rainbow under your belt (literally under your belt).
And while you're exploring the downtown area's signature boutiques (realizing how sexy your legs really are in those new short-shorts), be sure to check out some of our favorite spots too...
Mens Clothing
Division Palm Springs hosts a contemporary collection of tank tops, button downs, swim wear, and those highly coveted short shorts I mentioned above. If you really want to dress the part of an experienced Palm Springs gay, this is the place to shop – and it's right in the Arenas district.
GayMart USA proudly touts itself as America’s Favorite Gay Superstore. Swimsuits and underwear of all flavors are their specialty, but they've also got some fun cards, gifts, and adult novelty items (did someone say poppers)? GayMart is also in the heart of the Arenas district.
Bear Wear curates a nice selection of mens fashion, jewelry, and gifts. Philip ‘n Bruce always look forward to assisting you with your apparel needs – big men, small men, all men. And you guessed it – it's in the heart of the Arenas district.
Mr. Turk Menswear presents a swank modern resort interior that features 1970s styles with vintage flair at boujie prices. A bit further north on North Palm Canyon Drive, Mr. Turk is the baby spoon to Trina Turk Palm Springs.
Adult Gifts & Sex Shops
Rough Trade Gear Palm Springs has the hottest mens street, fetish, sport, and play gear – right in the heart of the Arenas District.
Gear Leather & Fetish has some of the best fetish goods from the world’s top makers for men who play hard. They're located on East Sunny Dunes Road, so grab a drink at the Tool Shed next door for some inspiration first.
Art, Gifts & Inspiration
Destination PSP offers uniquely fun and originally-designed merchandise. Their stylish, modern designs reflect the mid-century heritage of the Palm Springs experience. We particularly love their MCM (Mid-Century Modern) t-shirts and tissue box covers!
Just Fabulous Palm Springs is an modern lifestyle boutique offering a wide array of gifts, books, home decor that are as fun as they are inspiring.
Queertique Palm Springs is a queer lifestyle shop championing primarily independent queer artists unique art, apparel, goods, vintage and more. Be sure to take a selfie in their glamorous oversized dressing room (and then tag them in it obviously)!
The SHAG Store is the retail store for the artworks and merchandise of artist Josh Agle (aka SHAG). His style represents the vintage Palm Springs highlife, and every print is always hand signed and numbered by Shag himself.
Christopher Kennedy is Mid-Century made Modern. His home furnishings and interior design embody modern luxury and vibrant Southern California glamour.
Rancho Relaxo has a mission to inspire and delight, focusing on local artists and artisans who celebrate the spirit of Desert Modernism in their signature fashion, accessories, home decor, and gifts.
Home Furnishings & Accessories
H3K Home is a gay-owned operation specializing in design consultation, but they have a uniquely colorful showroom of Desert Modern home furnishings and accessories that would brighten anyone's day. We particularly love their Palm Strings Collection.
PS Homeboys are staging specialists with an inspiring showroom in the Arenas District that specializes in Mid-Century meets Modern home décor.
Wabi Sabi Japan Living is an ode to the “impermanence and imperfection” of Japanese art and design, featuring home goods and imported specialty groceries from Japan and Asia.
Consignment / Resale / Thrift Shops
Revivals is where all the conscientious gay locals shop, donate their furniture and appliances, contribute their art and jewelry, and volunteer their time. That's because all four (4) Revivals Stores and locations here in the Coachella Valley donates 100% of its profits to support comprehensive healthcare at DAP Health (the Desert AIDS Project) to the tune of over $1 million a year. Now that's what I call health "care"!
Misty's Consignments has room after room of professionally staged "venuets" filled with designer furniture, fine art, and more. It's an ever-rotating inventory wonderland for even the most discerning gay man (myself included)!
Antique & Vintage Furniture Shops
Antique Galleries of Palm Springs is the newest, largest, and best source for antique, vintage, and retro everything in the Coachella Valley. You'll find all sorts of random things here.
Palm Springs Vintage Market is a wonder to behold on the first Sunday of each month (8:00 am to 2:00 pm). Located at the Palm Springs Cultural Center (formerly Camelot Theatres), it has the best collection of Southern California sellers of vintage and antique furniture, art, clothing, jewelry, and home furnishings for any mid-century design enthusiast!
Wellness
The Men's Spa at La Dolce Vita is the only place where you can stay gay in town that includes a spa exclusively for gay men.
The Men’s Grooming Spot waxes where others don't. They also offer men’s massage, skin care, hair, and men’s nails with a "cool spa vibe" as the only complete men’s spa in the Coachella Valley.
World Gym Palm Springs has been referred to as the gayest gym in the world more than once since we've arrived here in Palm Springs. Think every type of gay (especially daddies and bears) wearing next-to-nothing and proudly keeping it "the" gay gym in town. Did somebody say cruising?
Daddy's Barbershop serves the LGBTQ communities and our allies with “old school barbering” and modern, sexy haircuts – right in the Arenas District.
Sunny Dunes Barber Shop is a no-frills, three-chair shop run by well-seasoned male barbers at a reasonable price.
The Vault Dispensary and Lounge promises to deliver the finest cannabis dispensary experience you can find. Their consumption lounge even features fun events, like Legendary (digital) Bingo night, hosted by comedian Deven Green & Ned Douglas!
Brand Names
Don't worry, boys – there's an H&M Palm Springs right here in the heart of downtown too for those of us who crave the familiar side of retail therapy.
West Elm Palm Springs is right next to H&M as well, so go seek some inspiration there while you're at it. Just consider supporting a local brand as well (unless you really need that sickening lamp that only West Elm can provide).
The Desert Hills Premium Outlets & Cabazon Outlets are side-by-side and just a quick 20-minute drive west of Palm Springs if you get that outlet itch. The Desert Hills Premium Outlets are the real highlight between the two, featuring all the name brands we love.
Palm Desert Shops is a great resource for where the bougier shops are. In fact, Palm Desert is where everything bougie and corporate is.
So, What's The T?
Why the Palm Springs Guys? The truth (the T) is that we wanted to create the kind of platform we were originally looking for ourselves before we moved here. There are lots of great resources available for all things gay here in Palm Springs, but none of them offered the kind of local flavor and local intel in one place that we were seeking…
*If you’re as obsessed with RuPaul's Drag Race as we are, you already know that 'The T' is another term for 'the Truth.'
If you didn’t know, well, you’re welcome.
Hey, Guys! We are Gregory and Glen (aka the Palm Springs Guys).
Consider us your new local guides to Gay Palm Springs. We’re pretty new to the high desert ourselves, so we invite you to explore the wonders of this Gaytropolis along with us, hand-in-hand (aww).
Why the Palm Springs Guys? The truth (the T) is that we wanted to create the kind of platform we were originally looking for ourselves before we moved here. There are lots of great resources available for all things gay here in Palm Springs, but none of them offered the kind of streamlined local flavor in one place that we were seeking. The Palm Springs Guys is our take on Gay Palm Springs!
While we may be new full-timers here ourselves, we hope our fresh perspective and new discoveries will become your secret weapon to Gay Palm Springs travel and pleasure. We can’t wait to share everything we learn with you along the way – all the hidden gems and the not-to-be-missed – so that you can eat, play, and stay gay here in the greater Palm Springs desert of Southern California.
The best way to follow along is through our What's The T? newsletter (which you can sign up for below)…
Like you, the pandemic served up some serious transitional realness for Glen and I – from Maryland to Marilyn (with a few places in between). If you’re curious to learn more about our backstory, check out our about page.
For now, here's some food for deep thought. After three (3) months in Palm Springs now, we are surrounded by shining examples of pride everywhere we go. Beautiful layers of pride to replace outdated layers of shame.
We’ve come a long way as gay men, but there’s still so much shame we carry in the queer community. That’s why it matters to celebrate who we are. That’s why gay communities that flourish in destinations like Palm Springs are so important – and why destinations like Palm Springs are only baby steps in the right direction in acknowledging generations of shame and struggle.
Glen and I are 40 years old now. We’ve been lucky in both our lives, but we’re finally PROUD to be who we are. We are no longer ashamed – and we’re reminded of that every day out here so far.
Come visit us sometime!
Cheers,
Glen & Gregory, The Palm Springs Guys
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