5 Things We Always Tell Gay Friends Visiting Palm Springs for the First Time
Planning your first Palm Springs gaycation? Here are 5 things we always tell our gay friends visiting Palm Springs for the first time – insider vacation tips on weather, nightlife, resorts, and embracing your fabulous self.
We’ve lived in Palm Springs for five years now, and let us tell you – there’s simply nowhere else quite like it. If you’re a gay man looking to live your best vacation fantasy (and maybe even flirt with the idea of staying for good), Palm Springs is the sun-soaked, speedo-clad, cocktail-in-hand escape of your dreams.
Palm Springs isn’t just gay-friendly – it’s practically gay-designed. From the moment you land, the mountains flirt with you, the boys wink at you, and the warm desert breeze whispers, “Take off your shirt, sexy.”
Whether you're coming to party, relax, explore, connect, or disconnect, here are the 5 things we always tell our gay friends before their first visit.
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1. Yes, it’s hot here in the desert – but it’s not like how you imagine.
Here’s the truth: desert heat hits differently. If you’re coming from a humid place like NYC or DC, 80° there feels like 110°. But here, a dry 105° can actually feel... dare we say... refreshing. Or at least comfortable.
That said, don’t get cocky about it. The sun is strong, the booze is stronger, and the dehydration is real. Hydrate often (we love a reusable water bottle), layer on that SPF, and bring a fan you can snap open for dramatic effect (yaass, Queen).
Pro Tips:
Do your hiking, brunching, or grocery shopping early.
Head indoors mid-afternoon – think Palm Springs Art Museum exploration, or a stylish air-conditioned nap.
Take the Aerial Tramway to escape the heat – temps up there can be 20° cooler (and the views are magnificent)!
With more pools per capita than anywhere in the country, take a dip – day or night.
2. You’ll feel more seen here than anywhere else you’ve been – so embrace it.
Palm Springs is proudly over 40% LGBTQ+. That means wherever you go – whether it’s the farmer’s market, a drag brunch, or Trader Joe’s – you’ll feel like you belong here.
Don’t hold back. Hold hands. Rock the mesh tank. Flirt with strangers. Be the main character at brunch. Whether you’re 25 or 75 – a twink, a bear, or a daddy – you’re part of the tapestry here.
From our local government and police force to our local businesses and eateries – there’s something magical and deeply healing about being in a town where your queerness is celebrated.
3. Most of our resorts for men-only are clothing-optional – but that doesn’t mean what you think.
Yes, most of our resorts for men-only clothing-optional. But that can mean different things depending on where you stay.
Looking for a relaxed, classy vibe with a friendly crowd? Start with Santiago Resort – perfect for first-timers. Ready to crank up the steam? Casa Oliver brings the heat (and then some).
Etiquette 101:
Be yourself, but embrace the opportunity to be as free as you’d like.
Keep your phone to yourself (no photos!).
Respect everyone’s vibe – friendships and flings happen naturally.
And who knows? That stranger in the hot tub might just become your new bestie. It happens all the time here.
4. Check out the theme parties – but pace yourself!
Palm Springs nightlife comes to life when a good theme calls. At Tool Shed, underwear night is always a popular weekly attraction. Be sure to wear your sexiest jock strap and leather harness for this – or make a pit stop at Gear Leather & Fetish next door.
Pro tip: the “Palm Springs pour” is not for amateurs. One drink here is often a double (and it’s still 90° outside), so sip wisely, gurrrl.
After Dark Suggestions:
Start at Tool Shed or Dicks on Arenas
Dance it out at Chill Bar or Quadz in the Arenas district after, or…
If you're in the mood for more... Club 541 (Palm Springs’ new sex club) is across the street.
Take a Lyft or Uber. Nobody looks cute getting a DUI in a harness.
5. During in-season (September–May), make those dinner reservations in advance – and leave time for a disco nap.
Palm Springs is a seasonal lady – and when she’s in-season, everyone’s out. Tables book up fast, especially at hot spots like:
Bar Cecil (try booking 1–2 months out!)
Clandestino, Lola Rose, and Ponzu are also go-to faves.
Shows, concerts, and drag revues can start early (7 or 8 PM), but the bars don’t start hopping until 9 or 10. Our advice is to plan ahead for dinner, take a disco nap, then head out looking rested and radiant.
Why Gay Palm Springs Is Always a Good Idea
Year-round sunshine, breathtaking desert views, and one of the most welcoming LGBTQ+ communities in the world? Yes, please.
From chill pool days to wild theme nights, from world-class dining to once-in-a-lifetime friendships, Palm Springs invites you to strip off the expectations, dive into freedom, and just… be exactly who you are inside and out. You’ll come alive here.
If you could give one piece of advice to a gay friend visiting PS for the first time, what would it be? What surprised you most during your first visit to Palm Springs? Share your experiences!
If you’re curious to learn more about all the fun you can have here in Palm Springs and our beautiful Coachella Valley, check out some of our blog favorites, like Best Gay Nightlife in Palm Springs, Escape to Bliss: Best Gay Men's Spas and Spa Resorts in Palm Springs, and Santiago, Descanso & Twin Palms Resorts: A Three-Way Comparison.
Curious About Buying, Selling, or Relocating?
Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
In addition to being one half of The Palm Springs Guys – Glen Nadeau is one of Palm Springs’ top-producing Realtors, known for his no-pressure approach, deep market expertise, and genuine commitment to his clients.
A member of The Caldwell & Linger Group – ranked a Top Real Estate Team by Palm Springs Life Magazine – Glen is also backed by COMPASS, which remains the #1 ranked brokerage in the country. Glen takes great pride in knowing that his clients are in such good hands.
“Hospitality is what drives me because helping folks achieve their real estate goals is essentially helping them build a better life for themselves.”
Visit Modern Living Palm Springs, or reach out to me directly. Ask me anything – I promise to give you much more support than ChatGPT, Google or the news will.
Your Palm Springs Insider,
Glen Nadeau (pronounced “Ned-oh” as in “meadow”)
📱 Call or Text: 805-220-8097
📨 Email: glen.nadeau@compass.com
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Why the 2025 DBA Impact Awards Stole Our LGBTQ+ Hearts
A recap of the 2025 DBA Impact Awards in Palm Springs – celebrating LGBTQ+ changemakers, queer joy, and why gay travelers contribute so much to our vibrant, inclusive community here in the Coachella Valley!
Let’s get one thing straight – I mean, GAY. Because here in Palm Springs, we like our sunshine bright, our cocktails full, and our LGBTQ+ community loud and proud 365 days a year. And nowhere was our radiant community support more palpable than at the 2025 DBA Impact Awards this week – hosted by the Desert Business Association (DBA), our local LGBTQ+ and allied chamber of commerce.
For visitors and locals alike, events like these are a heartwarming reminder that Palm Springs isn’t just a destination – it’s a celebration of who we are.
What Are the DBA Impact Awards?
In case you’re new to town (hi, welcome, let’s grab a drink later), the Desert Business Association is the Coachella Valley’s only LGBTQ+ business chamber organization. Founded in 1979, DBA has been advocating for equality, inclusion, and economic empowerment for over 40 years.
Each year, the DBA Impact Awards shine a well-deserved spotlight on local businesses, nonprofits, and community members who uplift and inspire. From trailblazing trans advocates to queer-owned start-ups, this awards ceremony honors those making a meaningful difference across the desert – the tears were flowing like bottomless mimosas.
A Night to Remember
Presented at the Palm Springs Convention Center with a crowd full of style and chosen family vibes, the 2025 ceremony was surprisingly one of the more moving events we’ve attended. Emotional speeches, applause, and that signature Palm Springs charm created a space where love, recognition, and resilience took center stage.
Beyond the awards, the energy was actually the star of the show. The entire evening was an important reminder that this desert town continues to be a sanctuary where LGBTQ+ folks are not only safe, but celebrated.
Local Legends & Desert Pride
The entire evening flowed effortlessly thanks to the ever-charming Peter Daut of KESQ, who emceed with warmth, wit, and the kind of smile that should honestly have its own Instagram account.
And then came the honors – a lineup of truly deserving community champions whose work uplifts our region every day. This year’s Impact Award recipients included:
Business of the Year – Stonewall Gardens Assisted Living
Businessperson of the Year – Bob Smiland, Desert Hand Car Wash
Outstanding Community Service Organization – Dinner with Patsi
Outstanding Community Service Leader – Palm Springs Police Department – All Officers and Staff
Legacy Award – Lisa Middleton, Former Palm Springs Mayor and Council Member
Each acceptance speech was a love letter to the Coachella Valley – filled with tearful emotion, gratitude, and the kind of stories that reminded everyone in the room why this community is unlike anywhere else.
What’s more, the event raised funds to benefit Youth Educational Scholarships through Safe Schools Desert Cities, helping support the next generation of LGBTQ+ leaders. Because in Palm Springs, we don’t just talk about making a difference – we actually do it.
Why Gay Palm Springs Is Always a Good Idea
If you’re feeling pulled to a place where you can show up as your full, authentic, fabulous self – Palm Springs is it. With nearly 50% of the population identifying as LGBTQ+, our city has become a beacon for queer travelers from around the globe and a trailblazer for inclusivity – from our local government to our police force to our community itself.
Here’s what also makes it magical:
Endless sunshine (300+ days a year—yes, really ☀️)
Year-round events like Palm Springs Pride, Modernism Week, Coachella, Palm Springs Hot Rodeo, and SO many more
World-class resorts, spas, and nightlife tailored – many being for the gay male traveler
It’s not just the palm trees and the pool parties – it’s the people. The 2025 DBA Impact Awards reminded us why we fell in love with Palm Springs in the first place. The fearless and resilient, big-hearted humans who make this place feel like home, even if you’re just visiting.
So pack your short-shorts and come live your best gay life here in the desert. We’ll be here with clothes off (I mean, bells on).
Which local LGBTQ+ business or changemaker has made a difference in your life? Share your experiences with us!
If you’re curious to learn more about all the fun you can have here in Palm Springs and our beautiful Coachella Valley, check out some of our blog favorites, like Best Gay Nightlife in Palm Springs, The Best Sex Shops and Adult Play Gear for Gay Men in Palm Springs, and Escape to Bliss: Best Gay Men's Spas and Spa Resorts in Palm Springs.
Curious About Buying, Selling, or Relocating?
In addition to being one half of The Palm Springs Guys – Glen Nadeau is one of Palm Springs’ top-producing Realtors, known for his no-pressure approach, deep market expertise, and genuine commitment to his clients.
A member of The Caldwell & Linger Group – ranked a Top Real Estate Team by Palm Springs Life Magazine – Glen is also backed by COMPASS, which remains the #1 ranked brokerage in the country. Glen takes great pride in knowing that his clients are in such good hands.
“Hospitality is what drives me because helping folks achieve their real estate goals is essentially helping them build a better life for themselves.”
Visit Modern Living Palm Springs, or reach out to me directly. Ask me anything – I promise to give you much more support than ChatGPT, Google or the news will.
Your Palm Springs Insider,
Glen Nadeau (pronounced “Ned-oh” as in “meadow”)
📱 Call or Text: 805-220-8097
📨 Email: glen.nadeau@compass.com
🔎My Google Business Reviews ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️